Oh, I totally get why you feel hurt—being left out sucks, especially when it’s people you care about. But before jumping to conclusions, take a breath. It might not be personal. Sometimes, people make last-minute plans, or they assume you wouldn’t be interested. Have you tried casually bringing it up? Like, “Hey, I saw you guys went out the other day! Looked fun—I’d love to join next time.” Their reaction might give you some insight. If this is a pattern, though, it’s worth checking in with yourself—are these friends truly valuing you the way you deserve?

Oh, I hear you. Friendships should fill you up, not leave you exhausted. If she’s a long-time friend, it’s tricky, but you can start by setting small boundaries—maybe being less available or not engaging in negativity. If you feel comfortable, you could say something like, “Lately, I’ve been focusing on more positive energy, and I’d love if we could keep our convos uplifting.” If she reacts badly, well… that tells you all you need to know. You don’t have to make a big announcement or have a dramatic fallout—just slowly step back and invest in friendships that make you feel good.