Every time I try to talk about what’s bothering me, it feels like it turns into a fight — or worse, he just shuts down. I’ve started wondering if I’m doing something wrong, or if we’re just stuck in this awful pattern.
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Every time I try to talk about what’s bothering me, it feels like it turns into a fight — or worse, he just shuts down. I’ve started wondering if I’m doing something wrong, or if we’re just stuck in this awful pattern.
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I’ve been there — holding it in until it explodes or trying to talk and ending up yelling. One trick that helped me was using “I feel” instead of “You always.” Saying, “I feel invisible when the chores fall on me every day” landed so much better than “You never help around here.” Pick a calm time, not during the chaos. It’s not easy, but small shifts in how you say things can completely change how they’re heard.